Putting the “Counsel” Back in “College Counselor”
Lucas Frankel, Shady Side Academy
April 16, 2025
22. That’s how many seniors cried in my office from September through October; 22 students in roughly 40 school days. Each instance was for a different reason, but the college process was at the core of their emotions.
As college counselors, our title has two separate but equally important words: “college” and “counselor.” The “college” part is easier; it's something that we can learn. “Counselor” is more challenging. Counseling requires empathy, active listening, and strength. We are asked to take on the responsibility of a parent, therapist, or peer, even though we are none of these to our students, but there are ways we can still help as “counselors.”
What does being a “counselor” require? German philosopher Lisa Herzog writes about our moral duties within our jobs. She uses the example that a doctor might be required to help in an emergency, even when not on duty. She goes on to write, “In societies with divided labor, it matters that individuals take seriously the moral roles that underlie their occupational roles. Role obligations are the way in which our societies allocate the responsibility for many tasks, and they are vital for their proper functioning.” So what social task is college counseling meant to perform?
One concern I hear regularly from my students is fear of the unknown. As is the worry about being judged by a strange gatekeeper of their future; all of their accomplishments put onto a few sheets of paper, and then quietly reviewed for a few short minutes. However, I think the answer is much more complicated: their stress comes from their imagination. Specifically, stress originates from how seniors imagine different versions of themselves throughout time. I believe it is our duty to give our students back this power, to help them see themselves for who they truly are – not who they believe themselves to be based on the college process.